Thursday, December 20, 2007

God willing, the Brothers Felich will soon be joined

We're looking forward, God willing, to adding to this picture of hooligans above!

Since having our last child, Jordan, just over 5 years ago, Shari and I have prayed about adopting our next child. There are lots of complexities that have led us to pursue adoption, I'll write about those in future posts as we wait for our new baby. The process could take 12-18 months, so we are likely in for a long haul. For now, very simply, the reasons we are adopting:

1. We would love to have another child. Our children have been an unspeakable blessing to us. We think God has equipped us to have another. We think children are one of the chief ways God multiplies His Church and effect on the world. We never really thought we were "done" with our last child. Our boys are pumped about this decision.

2. I'm personally sick of complaining about abortion and doing nothing tangible to put pressure and focus on the shame and travesty it is. In future posts, I'll write more about why I think Christian families putting their money and lives where their rhetoric is will do more to change the culture of infanticide than any legislation will ever accomplish. If Shari and I can pull this off financially (a big excuse for many people), a great many others can.

3. There are orphans who need homes. Orphans are near to the heart of God. Everyone of us who claim to be Christians were orphans also. Now we are adopted sons and daughters. Our new child will be a full-ranking member of the Felich household. Such a transfer from orphan to son or daughter is a vivid reminder of our transfer from strangers to the covenants of promise to full ranking children of the grace.

Like I said, there are many complexities concerning our decision to pursue adoption. For now, we are very excited and are geared up for the stressful wait. Your prayers are very much appreciated.


Rick Calohan said...

Tony & Shari,

Peace and Grace be with you and yours in the name of the Lord.

We shall keep the process of adoption that your family is about to undertake in our thoughts and in our prayers. You have eloquently put into words what you and Shari have and continue to pray and with God’s will shall come to pass.

In His Grace, for His Glory!


the giving to any one the name and place and privileges of a son who is not a son by birth. (1.) Natural. Thus Pharaoh's daughter adopted Moses (Ex. 2:10), and Mordecai Esther (Esther 2:7).

(2.) National. God adopted Israel (Ex. 4:22; Deut. 7:6; Hos. 11:1; Rom. 9:4).

(3.) Spiritual. An act of God's grace by which he brings men into the number of his redeemed family, and makes them partakers of all the blessings he has provided for them. Adoption represents the new relations into which the believer is introduced by justification, and the privileges connected therewith, viz., an interest in God's peculiar love (John 17:23; Rom. 5:5-8), a spiritual nature (2 Pet. 1:4; John 1:13), the possession of a spirit becoming children of God (1 Pet. 1:14; 2 John 4; Rom. 8:15-21; Gal. 5:1; Heb. 2:15), present protection, consolation, supplies (Luke 12:27-32; John 14:18; 1 Cor. 3:21-23; 2 Cor. 1:4), fatherly chastisements (Heb. 12:5-11), and a future glorious inheritance (Rom. 8:17,23; James 2:5; Phil. 3:21).
Easton's 1897 Bible Dictionary

We believe that salvation is by God alone as He sovereignly chooses those He will save. We believe His choice is based on His grace, not on any human individual merit, or foreseen faith.

Westminster Confession of Faith

CHAP. XII. - Of Adoption.
1. All those that are justified, God vouchsafeth, in and for His only Son Jesus Christ, to make partakers of the grace of adoption, by which they are taken into the number, and enjoy the liberties and privileges of the children of God, have His name put upon them, receive the spirit of adoption, have access to the throne of grace with boldness, are enabled to cry, Abba, Father, are pitied, protected, provided for, and chastened by Him as by a Father: yet never cast off, but sealed to the day of redemption; and inherit the promises, as heirs of everlasting salvation. said...

Praise the LORD, Tony!! We are excited to have the opportunity to sit with another of your children in worship! :) We really are praying for yall and are very excited about another Felich!

Frontier Forest said...

O’ What bravery and abundant joy beyond words! Tony, you and Shari have the blessed privilege of being guilty of having enlarged hearts! As Paul implies in II Corinthians 6:11, the Holy Spirit has been working and HE has prepared your hearts for just such a blessed occasion. I know that your powerful examples will lead many others to take this exciting, consecrated journey.

mjb said...

I didn't see my congrats and comments here. If you got it, that's all that mattered. If not please let me know. If we can be of any help or encouragement we would like to. It is an awesome thing.


Kampfgruppe-H said...

Felich Family,
This is awesome news! You are in our prayers.

Jim said...

With the adoption tax credit -- not a deduction, mind you, a dollar for dollar credit against your tax liability -- of over $11,000, this year, that comes close to covering most costs of a domestic adoption, and about half of the cost of an international adoption.

It's a great deal.

AJF said...

Almost Jim. Our adoption will cost close to $18k. Domestic adoptions of infants are around $12-20k depending on a number of things. Still, your point is very well taken. The initial sticker shock shouldn't stop us, the tax credit alleviates much of this amount.

Unwilling to ID self said...

Are you taking donations?

jeff the nj bowhunter said...

Tony & family -

May God richly bless you throughout this whole process! We, too, would like to have a 4th arrow in our quiver. It's awesome that your boys are excited too! What a family!

Jeff C.

AJF said...

Thanks for all your comments. You are very encouraging to us.

The donation question is a good one that we appreciate. We believe the Lord will provide this money. Could he provide it through people donating? Definitely. Still, in this case, we feel that our doing this without donations- by scrimping as scraping big time- no one else can say they can't do it for financial reasons. I make $68K per year, which ain't bad, but it's not a mint either- I'm guessing low for Jo. Co., Kansas. My wife took on extra pt work to help save the amount we'll need. If we can do it within our household means, so can others. This is part of why I think we must do it this way. We want to alleviate the opportunity for the "we can't afford it" excuse among those we who are contemplating adoption...

Anyways, this is the stuff of future posts.

Anonymous said...

Praises the Lord! You may be familiar with some radio programs on adoptions by Family Life. See below,

Adoption--A Step of Faith

All I Ever Wanted ... 11/16/2006 (Day 1 of 2)
Guests Include: Steven Curtis Chapman and Emily Chapman
Description: On the broadcast today, Grammy Award-winning singer and songwriter, Steven Curtis Chapman, and his daughter, Emily, tell Dennis Rainey how Emily, at 12, persuaded Chapman and his wife to adopt a child from China, after reading about the plight of orphans in that country.

Hope for Shaohannah 11/17/2006 (Day 2 of 2)
Guests Include: Steven Curtis Chapman and Emily Chapman
Description: Today on the broadcast, best-selling author Dennis Rainey continues talking with Christian recording artist Steven Curtis Chapman and his daughter, Emily, about the Chapmans' decision to adopt first one, then two, and eventually three baby girls from China. Hear more about Steven's adoption ministry, Shaohannah's Hope.

Acting by Adopting 11/18/2006 - 11/19/2006
Guests Include: Steven Curtis & Mary Beth Chapman, John Piper, Pat Ennis, Lisa Tatlock
Description: This weekend on the broadcast, Christian recording artist Steven Curtis Chapman, pastor and author John Piper, and professors Pat Ennis and Lisa Tatlock tell how adoption has changed their lives for the better.

Michelle K said...

Adoption of a child from the foster care system (at least in TX) that is:

--not an infant,
--has a "disability",
--is a minority,
--is part of a sibling group

is virtually free. There is a lawyer fee but that can usually be waived by the attorney or is free on National Adoption Day (in November). Thus, making the cost of adoption possible for anyone who can afford to raise a child. Also, I have known others who have completely paid for pricey adoptions (international or a domestic infant) through the financial support and donations of others. The "I can't afford it" argument just doesn't hold a lot of water.