Thursday, February 4, 2010
Risky for husbands to ask (thanks alot Lou Priolo!)
As a brotherly challenge to the men I will be speaking to this weekend in California, I'm going to present eleven questions Lou Priolo suggests we (husbands) should pose to our wives. Asking these questions will help us to build intimacy with our wives. Asking these questions will help us to better understand our helpmates. Indeed, Scripture bids us to live with our wives in an understanding way.
Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered. - 1 Peter 1:7
1. If you could change three things about me that would make me more Christ-like, what would you change?
2. Do I have any other annoying mannerisms or irritating idiosyncrasies that you would like to see me change?
3. How does it make you feel when I…(name something that you know displeases her)?
4. What goes through your mind when I… (name something that you know displeases her)?
5. What do you want from me that I’m not giving you at the moment I…(name something you know displeases her)?
6. What specifically would you like to see me do to change in this area (name something that you know displeases her)?
7. On a scale of one to ten, how would you rate our marriage?
8. What would it take to make our marriage a ten?
9 What is your opinion about…?
10. What personal goals do you have for your life? How can I help you achieve them?
11. Do you have any needs or desires that you believe I ought to be meeting or fulfilling better than I do? What are they?
(these questions are found in "The Complete Husband" by Lou Priolo)
I confess to not having asked all these questions of my own wife yet. Thankfully she doesn't read my blog too regularly so I might get away with not having to ask these myself. But for you, the faithful Reepicheep reader, you have now been challenged to try these out with your wife!!!